Because Christmas is God's Blessing to me, I can Bless Others - Reflections
December 12, 2018 | Didi Bacon
Christmas means God’s blessing. Jesus came to destroy the curse. He transformed cursing into blessing. Our souls come alive in blessing. This Christmas will you look to bless another? Some years ago Gary Smalley and John Trent wrote a book entitled The Blessing: Giving of the gift unconditional love and acceptance. In the book, Trent and Smalley lay out five aspects of giving a blessing.
- Appropriate, meaningful touch
To give a blessing, you have to connect with another person, whether it was with the laying on of hands, a hug, a pat on the shoulders, placing a hand on a young child’s head, or holding them in your arms. Appropriate, meaningful touch says “I love you!” even before a word can be spoken. It is no accident that blessing also means “hand on head.”
- Spoken/written words of love
Contrary to the rhyme words do matter. They matter immensely in giving a blessing. Don’t assume your loved ones know that you love them. You must tell them. The Blessing ALWAYS involved WORDS, either spoken or written.
- Attach high value
The third element of the Blessing involves our “attaching” our spoken (or written) words of “high value” to a loved one’s life – a “tangible” action that helps them know they have great value in your eyes and God’s eyes well. Often these words highlight a character trait or a God-given bent. It must be grounded in the truth. Saying something “positive” about a person that is not true is not a blessing. So a dad might say, “I am so thankful for your compassionate heart. When your little brother gets hurt, you always step forward to get him some help or do something to help him feel better.”
- Picturing a special future
In Scripture, the Blessing was also a time for the one giving the blessing to assure the one receiving the blessing of God’s blessing on their future. So you could say to your child, “You do such a great job of taking things apart to see how things work. I wouldn’t be surprised if God used that ability someday to help solve problems or to help build things that help lots of people.”
- Genuine commitment to bless
While the choice to “Bless” was an intentional act that was often linked with a one-time special occasion, the five elements of the Blessing are things that can be done each day! We can choose “hug” our child before they head out the door (appropriate, meaningful touch), or write them a note to put in their lunch telling them we’re praying for them (spoken message and attaching high value). It is saying, “I use this event to bless you – but I choose from now on to live out these words of affirmation, encouragement, and love in your life.” This Christmas we remember that we are blessed by God so that we can be blessings for God.
The LORD bless you, and keep you;
The LORD make His face shine on you, And be gracious to you;
The LORD lift up His countenance on you, And give you peace.’
Numbers 6:24-26 (NASB)